Ah, the Memories

Several days ago my sister IM’d me saying she thought it would be a good idea if I wrote a children’s book about dealing with Type 1 diabetes. She told me a couple of detailed ideas she could visualize about the book. I thought this was a great idea, but what really struck me was a memory she had about when I was first diagnosed.

What got me was that not only my sister, but my mom as well had told me this very same memory. I have listened to them tell it to me in detail, but I don’t remember it at all.

I have made note of it in previous posts, and I’ll repeat it here and probably in future posts; I have very few memories of my childhood surrounding my diagnosis. There could be a few reasons for this blackness of recall. I was just diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, which means my blood sugars were running very high for who knows how long. This can do bad things to the brain and memory. I was traumatized by it all, it was frightening; I may have blocked some things out to spare myself the horror. I was nine frickin’ years old, how well do you remember details from when you were nine?

The memory is of me learning to take my own shot. Both my mother and my sister tell me I put on quite a terrific drama. You see, my parents were the type who made a point of teaching their children to be independent. Childhood is preparation for adulthood. If you don’t learn to take care of yourself then you will be lost as an adult. My mom was a nurse and my dad a type 1 diabetic, so they both knew what diabetes is all about and what the future held for me. Today I am eternally grateful for my parents teaching me to be an independent do-it-myselfer. But when I was nine years old and newly diagnosed, learning to take my own shot was the most terrifying experience, apparently; I really do not remember it.

I am told I was sitting on an ottoman (or maybe it started in the bathroom and then eventually led to the ottoman) and my dad first demonstrated how to draw the insulin and then he showed me how to inject by injecting himself with his shot. Then he had me do mine. He watched and told me what to do, just like he had just shown me. When it came time to inject myself, well, that’s when all hell broke loose.

I was scared. I was terrified. I’m sure my dad was calm, caring, patient, and understanding at first. But as time went on and the crying got louder, I’m sure he probably became more stern, frustrated, and impatient with me. Both my mother and sister said I spent quite a long time crying, bawling, screaming, and putting up a ton of resistance toward this needle. knowing my dad, he would not have given up and injected me himself, he would have stood his ground until I did it myself and realized it was not as frightening and terrible as I imagined. So…I may have sat there for hours. My mom and sister don’t really remember how long it was, just that this went on for a while.

This kind of scenario doesn’t really happen too often in my family. For the most part we are all the type of people who face fear and adversity with a “let’s just do it and get it over with” kind of attitude. We understand that if it has to be done and there is no getting out of it, then just face it. Hesitation and resistance are a waste of time and energy. But there is the rare moment in each of our past where we crumbled in the face of fear and totally fell to bits.

The day of Dad’s funeral

Eventually, like within a week or so, I learned to take my own shot without fear or hesitation. I do remember many a morning where my dad, myself, and my brother (who is also a type 1) would all be in my dad’s bathroom checking our blood sugar and taking our shots together. Even though we were taught to be independent and do things ourself at a young age, we were still watched over by our parents until we proved we didn’t need monitoring.  Last I remember checking my blood and taking my shot with my dad was when I was eleven. It all ended when he died.

It all changed when Dad died. I was suddenly cut loose and floating aimlessly…lost. I had the training, I knew what and how to do it, but the loss of Dad was too much to bear too suddenly. I still needed him for emotional support, he understood my fear and suffering, he calmed me when it came to diabetes. I still needed him! And once again the whole world changed with tragedy and fear. This is one main reason I gave up on caring for my diabetes for so long. Diabetes started with fear, anger, and resistance. Dad helped keep all that in check. I can’t help but think that if Dad hadn’t died I would have calmed and come to harmony with my diabetes instead of exploding into rage, rebellion, and giving in to the fear of it at my father’s death.

“It’s your fault, Diabetes! You fucking disease! You killed my father! You ruined my life! I hate you! I hate you! I fucking hate you!”

And I spiraled into a self-destructive war against my own body for just about 25 years. Needless to say, I lost the war…but we eventually gained a peaceful, if not volatile, harmony.


5 thoughts on “Ah, the Memories”

    1. I do! You are welcome to scroll through my blog posts where you will find lots of advice. But what I can say right here, right now is to check your blood sugar often, and by often I mean like at least four times a day. Many doctors tell type 2’s to check their blood sugar but tend to tell them to do it not nearly as often as is helpful. Also, I would suggest a very low carb/ normal protein/ high fat diet; this is optimal for blood sugar regulation. Read Dr. Bernstein’s Diabetes Solution, it is a very good book that will teach you all about your diabetes and how to control it. Even if you choose to not follow his teachings exactly, they will help you a ton. If you are looking for support, information, and socialization amongst other diabetics, you can join TuDiabetes.org; this is an excellent site for all types of diabetics. Good luck to you. It’s tough, but definitely not impossible. 🙂


  1. Great post! This is my first time visiting your blog, but it won’t be the last. I’m looking forward to reading more of your writing about Type 1 Diabetes. It does suck! So sorry for the loss of your dad. Love the honesty you bring to this topic!


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